New to SLAA?
You don’t have to figure it all out today
If something about your relationships, romantic obsession, sexual behavior, or avoidance of intimacy feels out of control, you’re welcome to explore.
What is SLAA?
Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous is a Twelve Step fellowship for people who want freedom from patterns that are hurting them.
People come for many reasons: romantic obsession, emotional dependency, compulsive sexual behavior, fantasy, repeated painful relationships, or avoiding closeness altogether. You decide for yourself whether you identify.
A gentle place to start
How do I know if SLAA is right for me?
You don’t need to choose a label or make a big commitment. Try a few of these and notice what feels familiar.
Take the 40 Questions
Use SLAA’s self-assessment questions as a private reflection tool. They are not a medical diagnosis.
Explore the questions →Sit in on an online meeting
You can usually just listen. There is no pressure to share, and meetings can feel different from one another.
Find an online meeting →Read the newcomer information
Start with a short introduction to SLAA, what brings people in, and how recovery works.
Visit the newcomer page →Look at the core documents
Read the Characteristics of Sex and Love Addiction and the Signs of Recovery. See what you relate to.
Read the core documents →Try more than one meeting
Every group has its own personality. If the first one doesn’t click, another format may feel more comfortable.
Search official meetings →Pay attention to what resonates
You do not have to relate to every story. A few honest moments of recognition may be enough to keep exploring.
Browse more resources →What happens in a meeting?
Meetings are places to listen and share with people who understand. You may hear readings, members speaking about their experience, and information about the Twelve Steps.
- You may listen without sharing.
- Members usually use first names only.
- No one else decides whether you belong.
- Members are asked to protect one another’s anonymity.
That is completely normal. You can arrive quietly, keep your camera off if the meeting allows it, and simply listen.
Interested in a women’s Balkan meeting?
It isn’t open yet. We’re gathering women who may want to help form a private, English-speaking SLAA meeting on Zoom.
Looking for another meeting format?
Men and people interested in a mixed meeting may also get in touch. If several people want the same kind of meeting, I can connect them with permission.